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Date:2006-12-09 02:23
Subject:What if the Hokey Pokey really is what its about?
Mood: silly

I saw this bumper sticker and thought to myself "at last"! Someone else gets it. Life is about putting that left foot into the unknown that leap of faith that first brave step. Life is also about taking that left foot out for a break when it is time to reflect on the journey. An when life becomes too mundane, too dry, too dull then you shake it all about. I am a firm believer in love hard, smile often, laugh until it hurts, and cherish the tears. Thank you Hokey Pokey

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Date:2006-12-09 02:10
Subject:The truth is in
Mood: awake

Almost Perfect- INFP

46% Extraversion, 60% Intuition, 13% Thinking, 40% Judging
So, you want to make the world a better place? Too bad it's never gonna happen.

Of all the types, you have to be one of the hardest to find fault in. You have a selfless and caring nature. You're a good listener and someone who wants to avoid conflict. You genuinely desire to do good.

Of course, these all add up to an incredibly overpowered conscience which makes you feel guilty and responsible when anything goes wrong. Of course, it MUST be your fault EVERYTIME.

Though you're constantly on a mission to find the truth, you have no use for hard facts and logic, which is a source of great confusion for those of us with brains. Despite this, in a losing argument, you're not above spouting off inaccurate fact after fact in an effort to protect your precious values.

You're most probably a perfectionist, which in this case, is a bad thing. Any group work is destined to fail because of your incredibly high standards.

Disregard what I said before. You're just easy to find fault in as everyone else!

Luckily, you're generally very hard on yourself, meaning I don't need to waste my precious time insulting you. Instead, just find all your own faults and insult yourself.


If you want to learn more about your personality type in a slightly less negative way, check out this.


The other personality types are as follows...

Loner - Introverted Sensing Feeling Perceiving

Pushover - Introverted Sensing Feeling Judging

Criminal - Introverted Sensing Thinking Perceiving

Borefest - Introverted Sensing Thinking Judging

Freak - Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging

Loser - Introverted iNtuitive Thinking Perceiving

Crackpot - Introverted iNtuitive Thinking Judging

Clown - Extraverted Sensing Feeling Perceiving

Sap - Extraverted Sensing Feeling Judging

Commander - Extraverted Sensing Thinking Perceiving

Do Gooder - Extraverted Sensing Thinking Judging

Scumbag - Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving

Busybody - Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging

Prick - Extraverted iNtuitive Thinking Perceiving

Dictator - Extraverted iNtuitive Thinking Judging

My test tracked 4 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender:
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You scored higher than 99% on Extraversion
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You scored higher than 99% on Intuition
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You scored higher than 99% on Thinking
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You scored higher than 99% on Judging

Link: The Brutally Honest Personality Test written by UltimateMaster on OkCupid Free Online Dating, home of the The Dating Persona Test

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Date:2005-10-19 18:56

You fit in with:

Your ideals are mostly spiritual, but in an individualistic way. While spirituality is very important in your life, organized religion itself may not be for you. It is best for you to seek these things on your own terms.

60% spiritual.
40% reason-oriented.

Take this quiz at QuizGalaxy.com

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Date:2005-08-06 00:11

Cheese Pizza

Traditional and comforting.
You focus on living a quality life.
You're not easily impressed with novelty.
Yet, you easily impress others.

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Date:2005-07-12 21:09
Subject:AHHHHH advice anyone?
Mood: hopeful

Wow it amazes me how some feelings can really last through time. I am so confused, elated, torn, and excited. Back in November I met a woman and we quickly hit it off. We became very close. Soon we both realized we were falling in love. Shortly after that I had to push her away. I needed to take time to be alone and know what that was like. Honestly she scared me. I look back now and read all the emails we wrote and I remember some of the struggles we had. I still can't seem to get over her. It's so hard! I have dated others and I am still dating a wonderful woman. the only problem is all I see is R's face. I think of her when I should be focused on the one I am with. This last week R and I finally made contact for the first time in months. The second I heard her voice it was like a dagger to my heart. We talked as if we had just seen each other. It is so comfortable. I am stunned into admitting I really love her. I always have...So now what do I do. She now lives two states away. How do I tell the girl I am dating that I am still in love with someone else? We are dating other people that was established by her, but I don't want to hurt her feelings. She is an amazing woman I just can't bring myself to feel anything for anyone else but R (trust me I have tried). How can a woman that I only knew for a short time so consume me. It amazes me that after not seeing her for over 5 months I still thought about her everyday, and dreamed about her often. Anyone with wisdom? I am trying to take this slow and stay in perspective. Really I am going nuts all I want to do is crawl into R's lap. Should I follow my heart when it may be crazy? Is it time for a leap of faith or am I blinded by love?

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Date:2005-07-01 15:28
Subject:Is life truly just the Matrix?
Mood: disappointed

Have you ever stepped back and looked at your life and wondered....What's the point? Some days I struggle so hard to see the big picture. It seems like my life is always going to be in flux. Don't get me wrong I have had such amazing experiences that I would never give up, but still.....Seems I am always walking a fine line between pain, and happiness. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever know what it feels like to be truly happy, and free. I feel that recently I am wanting to run and disappear into the world. How can I have such an amazing life and still always feel like something is missing. My whole life I have been searching for the elusive feelings of love, care compassion, connection. I am so blessed with so many things. At the same time I have always been so alone. Well I guess we all are Huh?
I have just been in my head a lot and needed to get it out. Maybe life really is just what it seems.... a superficial dance of action, and reaction. Hummm? I know there has to be more to it. There must be a reason for all my experiences, struggles, and hurts. I can't believe that I was given all my unique skill for nothing. So what is it? Well I guess I will just have to wait this one out. Maybe when I'm 60 I will know.

"a candle can last forever but it's light is rarely seen, an explosion lives but a second long enough to aww the world"

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Date:2005-06-06 13:16
Subject:Yep that's me!

Your Dominant Thinking Style:


You thrive on the unknown and unpredictable. Novelty is your middle name.
You are a challenger. You tend to challenge common assumptions and beliefs.

An expert inventor and problem solver, you approach everything from new angles.
You show people how to question their models of the world.

Your Secondary Thinking Style:


You're all about looking at the facts, and you could always use more of them.
You see life as your lab - and you're always trying out new things, people, and ideas.

The master of mix and match, you're always coming up with unique combinations.
You are good at getting a group to reach consensus.

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Date:2005-06-06 07:34
Subject:MMM Kisses, kisses, kisses!

Part Passionate Kisser

For you, kissing is about all about following your urges
If someone's hot, you'll go in for the kiss - end of story
You can keep any relationship hot with your steamy kisses
A total spark plug - your kisses are bound to get you in trouble

Part Expert Kisser

You're a kissing pro, but it's all about quality and not quantity
You've perfected your kissing technique and can knock anyone's socks off
And you're adaptable, giving each partner what they crave
When it comes down to it, your kisses are truly unforgettable

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Date:2005-06-02 14:11
Subject:Sounds about Right. Wow quiz shock

You Are The Wayward Heart
"Feel Better."

You are best described as 'Emotional Support'. Anytime an emotional issue comes up or something stresses people out, you are there to help them feel better about it. Whether you are the prankster of the bunch, the funny one, the wild one, or just the shoulder to cry on - your traits favor what it takes to keep people going. You like large groups of people and have many friends. When something hits home for you, however, you have a hard time with it. You also have difficulty paying attention or focusing on one thing. Above all, though, if people are happy, you are happy.

Which Classic Story Role Do You Play?
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Date:2005-06-02 13:55

Your #1 Match: ENFP

The Inspirer

You love being around people, and you are deeply committed to your friends.
You are also unconventional, irreverant, and unimpressed by authority and rules.
Incredibly perceptive, you can usually sense if someone has hidden motives.
You use lots of colorful language and expressions. You're qutie the storyteller!

You would make an excellent entrepreneur, politician, or journalist.

Your #2 Match: ESFP

The Performer

You are a natural performer and happiest when you're entertaining others.
A great friend, you are generous, fun-loving and optimistic.
You love to laugh - and you like almost all people equally.
You accept life as it is, and you do your best to make each day fantastic.

You would make a good actor, designer, or counselor.

Your #3 Match: ENFJ

The Giver

You strive to maintain harmony in relationships, and usually succeed.
Articulate and enthusiastic, you are good at making personal connections.
Sometimes you idealize relationships too much - and end up being let down.
You find the most energy and comfort in social situations ... where you shine.

You would make a good writer, human resources director, or psychologist.

Your #4 Match: ENTP

The Visionary

You are charming, outgoing, friendly. You make a good first impression.
You possess good negotiating skills and can convince anyone of anything.
Happy to be the center of attention, you love to tell stories and show off.
You're very clever, but not disciplined enough to do well in structured environments.

You would make a great entrpreneur, marketing executive, or actor.

Your #5 Match: ESFJ

The Caregiver

You are sympathetic and caring, putting friends and family first.
A creature of habit, you prefer routines and have trouble with change.
You love being in groups - whether you're helping people or working on a project.
You are good at listening, laughing, and bringing out the best in people.

You would make a great nurse, social worker, or teacher.

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Date:2005-05-22 07:51
Subject:What's up with Tommy
Mood: drained

Yesterday was awesome! I woke up after allowing myself to sleep in late. I decided to get out of the house and headed to Cherry Creek Reservoir. The day was too perfect. Hot sun, and slight breeze. I swam through the frigid, murky water until I was chilled to the bone. I then laid out in the sun until I was baking. In, and out of the water I repeated this for a few hours. It was great! Nothing like back-floating under the hot sun. Next time I will have to bring some friends with me. Yesterday I really needed that alone time to clear my head. I felt elated to have the stunning realization that summer was here! I love summer, and I am looking forward to this one. After I got home showered and changed I was off again. I spent the evening playing family feud with about 100 people. It was crazy all of us in teams of five. Playing to see who would win 1st, 2nd, and 3rd place. There trophies, and cash prizes. All of this was taking place to raise funds to build a community center for the Deaf. My team won 3rd place and cash prize of $100. We re donated that money back to the building fund. It was a riot playing a game like that only using Sign Language. Wheew by the end of the day I was exhausted. I guess I pushed myself a bit too far. Today I feel like crap allergies suck. I am also wondering why I have not heard from K in 2 days. Maybe she has decided to call off the dating idea. Hummm I am not so sure I mind. Yesterday was so peaceful that I was actually contemplating calling it off myself. In all actuality if she does get in contact with me I will tell her I am just interested in being friends. She is beautiful and we have a lot in common. she has a lot of things on the list of what I seek....But she is also way dramatic, and a bit more manipulative then I want. and some of the things that I truly want she does not have innately. I am not looking to fix anyone. Nor do I expect to find the perfect woman. My gut just tells me no. I don't want to waste any more time on detours with woman that I date knowing it wont last. SO on with the single life. Lesson learned? The sayings "beauty is only skin deep" and " beauty is in the eye of the beholder" can be very true! When I first saw a picture of this woman I thought... she was the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. That impression has faded. Yes she is still drop dead beautiful. I guess I was just hoping to see some of that beauty radiating out from a spiritual soul. I'm not trying to say she is not amazing. I just seek someone on a spiritual path whose daily life does not have to involve turmoil, and drama to feel complete.
Well I'm off to work feeling a little lighter in the soul.

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Date:2005-05-21 10:33
Subject:Humm is that me?

This is my score on the quiz not so sure thats me? I mean 28% Virgin come on! Dambit I guess I need to figure out where that 28% is and get to work squelching it LOL

You scored as A Slave To BDSM.

Admit it, you like being tied up and being told you've been very naughty. You like teasing your partner and making them squirm, and not letting them be able to do anything about it. Some people think what you do is sick and disgusting, but you know it's all in good fun.

A Slave To BDSM 95%
Sex God 90%
A Romantic 50%
Virgin 28% ? What Part? LOL

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Date:2005-05-16 12:51
Subject:Run hide the Femmes are coming!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mood: hopeful

Ok so for the first time I am actually contemplating getting to know and date a real femme. I have always dated more adro style women. I am very attracted to femmes. I have not had the opportunity to meet many true femme lesbians. I recently started talking to this woman. Honestly we have not met in person yet. Her pictures take my breath away! I think she is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. More important then that she is smart, funny, and keeps me on my toes. AHHHHHH this is where I usually run screaming. I don't tend to date the ones I think are truly amazing. I guess I don't let myself so I can't get hurt. She seems to be just as scared/ nervous as I am. Who knew a femme could make me shiver with fear, and anticipation at the same time. She has so many things that I long for in that ideal woman. It is interesting just how different the dynamics are with a Butch and femme. I LIKE IT! So hopefully I will be brave enough to see where this is going. If it does not turn out to be anything..... at least I have learned something more valuable about what I like, and what I seek.

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Date:2005-04-04 14:41
Subject:Me and the kids
Mood: cheerful

Sitting in my classroom enjoying the sounds of my kids. I am teaching a computer class and today I have 10 Deaf kindergartners. They are so funny and cute. Trying to get them to control the mouse is so hilarious. The sounds that they make when they accomplish something is great.... sometimes loud but great. Just taking a moment to remember how much I love my job!

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Date:2005-03-25 12:31
Subject:Cold sweat/ good day
Mood: lethargic

Wow I think after days of having nasty cold,and fever it finally is breaking. All day long I have wandered around in a cold sweat with the world spinning. I still feel like utter shit. On a positive note today was an good day.
Recently I started working 1 on 1 with a four year old autistic deaf boy. He is very sweetand cute. he can also be extremely difficult. I think today we may have had a break through. The past two weeks he has had a hard time accepting me. Today we became friends. We finnaly made a heart connection, he is beginning to trust me. I can tell by the fact that finnaly after two weeks he is looking me in the eye. Today we played at least a million different games without any major explosions. I am sure days like this will be rare; so I will celebrate the small victories.

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Date:2005-03-21 13:36

Yuck I have a cold and I want my mommy. I have that coughy achy stuffy yucky...yes it's true. Every time I get sick I am reduced to a five year old that wants to climb up into a lap. Uggs well I guess I will just have to find a cuddle buddie until I feel all better.

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Date:2005-03-21 11:45
Subject:Judy and Dorothy I miss you
Mood: nostalgic

To the only two women who ever truly knew me....I hope you are looking down from heaven. I am missing my soalmates today!
Love you Yo

How do I say goodbye to what we had?
The good times that made us laugh
Outweighed the bad.
I thought we'd get to see forever
But forever's gone away
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday

I don't know where this road
Is going to lead.
All I know is where we've been
And what we've been through
If we get to see tomorrow
I hope it's worth the wait
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday

And I'll take with me the memories
To be my sunshine after the rain
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday
And I'll take with me the memories
To be my sunshine after the rain
It's so hard to say goodbye to yesterday
"Boyz II Men

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Date:2005-03-17 22:32
Subject:Warrior Woman
Mood: artistic

Dagger in hand I thrust to your soul.
You sheath my blade deep.
Tasting the steel of my heart.
Will I die for you?
As my blade beats to join you.
You strike at my spirit, I counter with essence.
You slice at my core, I shut down to protect.
You pretend not to see....masking your feelings...pretense illusion.
I am open and waiting...My torn bleeding love.
I wretch out the feelings.
I purge you away.
Hand in hand we battle to the ground...roll in the dying flames of friendship.
Fist to gut, Blow by blow as the connections sever, soul to soul.
last piercing blade shot from your mouth.
My shield barricades to shut you out.
Warrior Woman you battle.
Warrior Woman you win.
Savor the cost not of physical, but the soul lost within....

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Date:2005-03-08 00:45
Subject:Most commonly confused words quiz

You scored 93% Beginner, 93% Intermediate, 90% Advanced, and 90% Expert!
You have an extremely good understanding of beginner, intermediate, and advanced level commonly confused English words, getting at least 75% of each of these three levels' questions correct. This is an exceptional score. Remember, these are commonly confused English words, which means most people don't use them properly. You got an extremely respectable score.

Thank you so much for taking my test. I hope you enjoyed it!

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Date:2005-03-08 00:05
Mood: listless

I navigate a random sea of faces. I flow through their smiles. Their tears are but moisture to me. Each glance past me is just a flicker. A light on a face impenetrable as known. When will a reflection of humanity enter the eyes? Will I ever see life in the gazing globes? A sea of faces I wander. I contemplate am I merely a speck in the assemblage. When your gaze passes what is it that you perceive? Do you even see? What is it that I hunt for in all I behold? Oh right I forgot I'm searching for me. Out there.... in here where did I go? The faces say nothing.....Do you know?

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